Wacky

Behaving in a silly or random way in order to appear funny.

The Art of Relationships

Every person you meet is a mirror. When we share love, we see love. When we share kindness, we find kindness. When we hold onto anger, we experience anger. When we desire control, we feel controlled.

When we want another to “do it our way” we rob them of their own soul’s dignity. In reality, we don’t know the greater why, how, what, or when the gift of their own awareness, learning, growth or upliftment will bloom.

Who are we to presume we know what another truly needs?

If you could consider everything that bothers you about a person or situation to be a reflection of what you think, believe or judge, you would experience joy beyond measure as you meet and accept the you that you see in others.

This isn’t easy stuff to get the hang of. It hurts, stings, and is a royal pain in the you-know-what when we begin the journey of letting go and opening to the greater truth contained in our loving heart. However, I can tell you that if you hang in there, your life will become much easier and more fulfilling than you ever dreamed possible.

I’m not sure we ever stop wanting to change the “other” in our life until we stop trying to change ourselves. Our ego will always tell us if we change our environment, situation, circumstance, etc. things will be better.

We keep from falling back into our old routines and habits by allowing ourselves to grow naturally.  What is forced doesn’t have a chance to grow roots, what is nurtured grows strong.

If you could recognize that a fight is nothing more than a cry for love,

“see me, hear me, love me” then compassion is born. Fighting fairly is to allow yourself vulnerability without taking what the other person is saying or doing personally – it is taking care of yourself and then learning how to take care of others.

Sometimes the best way to fight fairly is to just walk away for a while and calm down.  Even a shower sometimes does the trick.  Take a deep breath and choose to come from your loving heart. This sometimes means putting yourself in their shoes.

It doesn’t serve you well to “pretend” things don’t bother you. Nor does it serve you well to blame another for your upset response. The upset, theirs or yours, is real.

Instead take a look at it this way:

I’m angry, I’m sad, I’m upset, and the host of other feelings, both positive and negative, are all accurate expressions of feelings… when we say “I’m upset because…” It’s the ‘because’ that creates separation. This is the mind’s interpretation of “why” the upset, sadness or anger occurred.

Be patient, compassionate, and gentle with yourself. You will find the art of relationships becomes the art of loving everyone – especially yourself.